3 Dangerous Relationship Myths

By Rori Raye

So many times, we women are operating under false assumptions about relationships that cause us to feel sad, lonely, and disconnected from our man.
These dangerous relationship myths are so widespread, it's no wonder so many of us have suffered the sting of heartache. I'm sure you'll recognize these and the pain they bring. Knowing the real truth I'm about to share is nothing short of love-life changing.

Relationship Myth #1: Giving = Getting

This myth tells us that in order to get more affection and romance from a man, you have to become more affectionate and romantic yourself. So you buy him special gifts, tell him you love him before he tells you, cook him special meals, and offer him a lot of advice and encouragement.
You become a giver, and you believe that, in time, he will reciprocate. While it's true that every relationship is give and take, the truth is that men don't fall in love because you've given them so much. They don't stay in love because you're sacrificing everything for them.
Men fall in love when they are able to give to a woman. They fall in love with you because they can make you happy and nurture you. They fall in love when you take care of yourself and share your emotional experiences with them.
Never give a man more than he's given you, including expressions of love and encouragement. Hint: Don't keep telling him you love him when he hasn't said it to you yet.

Relationship Myth #2: Exclusivity Leads to Commitment and Marriage

This is the most dangerous myth we women have come to believe. From the time we first started dating, we were taught that the way to marriage is to meet a nice man, become his exclusive girlfriend, and that this alone will naturally lead to commitment.
Here's the shocking truth: What makes a man want to give up his freedom and single status for you has nothing to do with the fact that you've given him all your time and emotional energy. That's right - the very fact that you're exclusive with him when he hasn't committed to you yet actually makes a man think less of you.

“Men fall in love when they are able to give to a woman. They fall in love with you because they can make you happy and nurture you.”

The moment a man smells that need and desperation that comes from having an unconscious agenda of how things "should be", his feelings of attraction for you will fade.

Relationship Myth #3: Showing a Man Your Feelings Will Scare Him Away

If you've ever been afraid to tell a man how you're feeling because you're afraid you'll lose him if you do, then I'm certain this myth has been causing havoc in your love life.
Stuffing your feelings down actually creates more distance between you and a man. The key is not to suppress your feelings, but to express them without drama or blame.
Before I learned the truth about relationships and turned my marriage around, I was guilty of believing and acting out on all these relationship myths. Once I understood these core truths, everything in my love life changed - for the better. That’s why I write my newsletter - so you can quickly discover what it took me so many painful years to figure out.
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• How to open up yourself to receive instead of give so that your man wants to shower you with love and affection
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Get Your Man Back: Rebuild The Strong, Secure, Boundlessly Attractive YOU He First Fell In Love With

Do you sometimes feel like your whole life revolves around trying to figure out what went wrong to cause your man to break up with you? Or, if you're still together, do you spend hours wondering "what's going on" with him, or why he doesn't call and see you as much?
If this sounds painfully familiar, there's a reason for it: most of what we as women have been taught all our lives about keeping a great man (and what causes us to lose him) is WRONG.
That's why I created the "Get Him Back" Boot Camp infographic below. It shows you step-by-step exactly how to rebuild your emotional strength to inspire lasting devotion in your man. Click to view it full size and start working towards bringing him back today.
But before your training begins, let me tell you exactly WHY these exercises really work to make him realize you are the woman he can't live without (and will do anything to get back!)

Why "Get Him Back" Boot Camp Works

You'll Be Granting Your Man's Secret Wish

Most women have no clue about a "secret wish" that every quality man carries deep inside himself: the wish to find just one rare, irresistibly powerful quality in a forever partner... the quality of highly valuing and honoring YOURSELF.
How do you create this quality in yourself? You do it by learning how to put yourself first.
We've been taught our entire lives that focusing on a man's needs is the best way to "win" his affection and attention. But, even though it goes against everything we learn as women, the path to rekindling a man's passion and commitment is stopping all the wondering, analyzing, and worrying about why HE acts the way he does and beginning to explore and fully experience your own life in the most powerful ways possible... up to and including beginning to go on casual dates with other men!
Of course, it may seem illogical - even scary - to consider granting your man's "secret wish" by experiencing other men. But the truth is, it's one of the most powerful things you can do to become the self-honoring woman your man will do anything to get back. Learn more about a powerful tool called "Circular Dating" on Day 6 of "Get Him Back" Boot Camp and in my free relationship newsletters.
Once your man realizes that you value your own worth, you'll drive him crazy with desire by becoming a prize that requires fighting for. Do it, and he'll never let you go again.

You'll Break Old Habits

When your man leaves you or starts to pull away, you need to accept that you've probably done something to cause it. I know this is painful to admit, but when it comes to getting your man back, changing YOUR behavior patterns is the fastest way to clear the path to reconnecting with him.
Identify and break the habits that are blocking his view of your self-esteem and strength - and watch him start to move back to you! This means learning how to "lean back," giving your man time and space to miss you instead of constantly checking-in, calling, texting, and showing up at his door. It also means learning how to NOT have your life revolve around him anymore.
No more spending all day thinking about him. No more scheduling your day around his plans. No more watching what you say and don't say. No more "overfunctioning" to make him happy, or accepting things he does that make you unhappy. Check out Day 2 of "Get Him Back" Bootcamp for tips on how to stop "overfunctioning" and what to do instead.
Above all, understand that your man will only be inspired to move towards you again once you recognize that you need to begin changing some things about yourself.

You'll Share Your Emotions The RIGHT Way

As women, we tend to lose control of (or hide) our emotions because of fear and insecurities about how he will react when we express ourselves. But the shocking truth is, men are powerfully, helplessly ATTRACTED to our emotional natures above all else.
In reality, it's all the "drama" of how we sometimes express emotions that men run away from. So don't be afraid to show your feelings, but be sure to express them in a way that's non-judging and non-critical so your man doesn't feel blamed or cornered. Instead, learn how to share and embrace them in the right way.
Do this often, and you'll make your man sense at a deep, unconscious level that he wants and needs your company, your touch, your affection. In fact, he'll feel compelled to open his heart and take action and get it. You don't even need a man around to practice this - start expressing your feelings the right way with everyone you meet. Learn more on Day 3 of "Get Him Back" Boot Camp.. Plus, I go much more in-depth on how your feminine emotions can make you magnetically attractive to a man (when expressed the right way) in my relationship advice newsletters. You can sign up here for free.

You'll Be TAKING ACTION

Think back to the "you" who first met and started dating your man. Was she constantly obsessing about him and calling him? Did she arrange her life around what he was doing? Did she sacrifice her own feelings of strength and self-worth to please him?

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Of course not. Chances are, when you first met him, you were focused on strengthening and building up yourself instead - and it made you EXTREMELY attractive to him. That's why I want you to take this opportunity to start working on YOURSELF and become more like the woman who attracted him in the first place.

So Let's Get Started!

Click on the Infographic below to view it full size and find your detailed 7 Day Plan. You can start Day 1 of your Boot Camp exercises TODAY and by the end of day 7 - just watch as he does everything he can to get you back!

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